Watching Insight last night got me a little riled and I was, let's say, a little belligerent and sarcastic with my comments.
I wondered why I got like that.
Sure I've been at the coal face of this subject for 16 years or so now and obviously living it for many more before that.
Maybe I was just bored with it.
Some conclusions I/we'd reached a long time ago surfaced on the show, so that was good e.g. the fact that there is no right answer - no matter how many kids you do or don't have someone will always tell you you are doing it wrong.
I was particularly annoyed with how so many "friends" of the child free felt sad for us and focused on all the negative aspects of their own lives.
There was a religious women who despaired for her childfree friend because she wasn't using her God given womanhood.
I wanted to punch the bitch. How rude she was, and, let's face it, completely fucking wrong.
There was the guy who looked like he was going to burst into tears at any time because he and his wife had failed to sort this issue out before they got married. Spot the doomed relationship.
There were a couple of Doe-eyed folk who seemed particularly jealous and annoyed at the fact that someone had chosen not to do something they couldn't.
Sure, it may be sad for YOU that you can't have kids, but feeling sad for us and dwelling on it yourself helps no-one...especially you.
To me they are like the people who put flowers on the power poles that their loved one crashed into and died at...
...a painful reminder that will keep being painful if that is how you choose to focus on the event.
If you can't have kids deal with it; adopt, be a great aunt, maybe even fight it with your funds on a medical front, but for fuck's sake don't sit there and mope because, I for one, regardless of the reason, don't want to hang around people who fail to get off their arse.
You know what, Magic DOESN'T Happen but we do have a fair chance of getting what we focus on and work for. It is then our choice as to what those targets are, good or bad, whether we know it or not.
The Feed program, which can be watched online, was less annoying to some degree but I was disappointed that they'd gone down the stereotype path.
Sure the stereotypes exist but there is a far deeper story at play in the CF community and wankers with flash cars, even if they are me, are simply not the majority.
There was a lovely level headed couple who did a great job. They weren't bothered and they had clearly thought this through.
Bravo to them! :-)
The show is worth watching just for them. I saw show, it is a 5 minute segment.
I received this press release and watched the trailer, it looks great :-)
"My name is Sean Flanagan and I am writing to you from Cinema Libre Studio, an independent film production and distribution company. I wanted to bring to your attention a new documentary, Generation Baby Buster, which will be released on DVD and VOD starting June 9th! We think this could be a great piece for Child Free Zone because it provides a very healthy and well rounded discussion about what it means to choose to start a family, or choose to focus on yourself and what fulfills you in life - with the ultimate message that there is no wrong answer as long as you are happy, healthy and fulfilled. One of our experts, Australian Dierdre Macken also wrote OH NO, WE FORGOT TO HAVE CHILDREN: HOW DECLINING BIRTH RATES ARE RESHAPING OUR SOCIETY.
There are currently 62 million women in the United States in their childbearing years, and convention says that being “successful” in life includes ultimately settling down and getting married, having a nice home, and raising children. However, more and more women are just saying no to procreation. Generation Baby Buster is a documentary film that explores the reason why so many women are just saying no to procreation. Armed with insight from those who write and think about the current state of affairs for mothers, the director confronts her own ambivalence towards children and motherhood, offering up some baby food-for-thought to a new generation of women: the baby busters."
To Parent or Not to Parent?
A Spirited New Conversation on Taking the Plunge
Coming to DVD & On Demand June 9, 2015
LOS ANGELES, CA (May 8, 2015) In her first feature documentary filmmaker Terra Renton explores how women are bypassing starting a family in GENERATION BABY BUSTER. There are currently 62 million women in the US alone that are considered in their child bearing years, but more and more are just saying no to have children. The film won Best Documentary Feature Film in 2012 at Geneva Film Festival and was also an Official Selection at Calgary International Film Festival. Released by Cinema Libre Studio, the film will be available on DVD and On Demand in North America on June 9th.
Director/ producer/ writer, Terra Renton, was inspired to make the film when, at some point in her early thirties, she started noticing that among her friends and acquaintances, all started to have babies. Her childfree status with her husband was a decision she made in her early thirties, and she feels comfortable, because having children would mean giving up so much for her. She says that she enjoys the freedom and lack of responsibility, which allows her to focus on her career at Pyramid Productions in Calgary. Most recently she has written and produced many things, from Celebrity Style for E Entertainment to Hail for CBC Alberta.
“Once I began, I realized I could not make this documentary without becoming a part of it, because even though I believe many women can relate to my feelings, the film became my own personal journey and I could not remain entirely behind the camera where I had wanted to be. The main reason for this was that all of the experts, whom I came to call prophets, were speaking to me and sharing not only their research but their personal experiences and as I learned what they had to teach me, I grew and changed.” Says Renton in regards to her process developing the film.
Renton sought out to explore all of her reasons that ‘a child would ruin my life’ and confronts them all by talking to experts on the topic. The film features interviews with over a dozen authors, professors and medical experts, including Corrine Maier, author of No Kids: 40 Reasons Why Not to Have Children, as well as Madelyn Cain, author of The Childless Revolution.Together they consider the pros and cons of what a child would do to your life. These are the current issues faced by women and couples all over when they are making a decision to have a baby.
“Nobody wants to talk about the fact that motherhood is sacrifice. If you want to be a god mother, it means that you come second, or even third” said Madelyn Cain, author of ‘The Childless Revolution: What It Means to be Childless Today’. Renton hopes that her journey in Generation Baby Buster, could answer the big question: What does this mean for the future of our societies? Why are women choosing not to do something once considered so natural and important?
ABOUT CINEMA LIBRE: Cinema Libre Studio is a leader in distributing social-issue documentaries and features by passionate filmmakers. Headquartered in Los Angeles, the Cinema Libre team has released over one hundred films including the Sundance Audience Award‐Winning FUEL, THE END OF POVERTY?, Rachid Bouchareb’s LONDON RIVER and Oliver Stone’s SOUTH OF THE BORDER. The studio is developing John Perkins’ best‐selling memoirs, CONFESSIONS OF AN ECONOMIC HIT MAN, into a major motion picture. Recently released in theaters is CAN’T STAND LOSING YOU: SURVIVING THE POLICE, inspired by rock legend Andy Summers’ memoir One Train Later and the multi-Ariel Award winning Mexican thriller, Days of Grace (Dias De Gracia).